I had a recent conversation with my friends recently, over mahjong (’cause great ideas are formed at a mahjong table, said No One Ever).
We were talking about marriage (’cause that’s what everyone my age is talking about now, whatever happened to DoTA?!), and I brought up the unspoken “market guideline” of the engagement ring being 3 times the last drawn salary of the lucky groom. Yes, I can almost hear the silent uproar of the Singaporean male community with how money could be better spent on housing or exorbitant COE prices.
And as a professional shit stirrer, I felt it was my duty to inform my male comrades about how a Hermes bag can set you back by more than $20,000 (and I wasn’t even talking about the limited editions).
You cannot imagine the amount of bias the room could contain.
Of course, there are also one-sided views on how certain professions are looked down upon, or “cosplaying” is a waste of money, or cricket is dumb.
“Everyone is entitled to their own set of beliefs and preferences”, but I think some folks neglect to view that statement in its entirety. They think: “Yeah I’m entitled to my opinion”, but forget that others have their tastes and priorities too!
I think I bashed a couple of Singaporean males for not dressing well in a previous post, but hey, if external appearance isn’t high on their priority list, so be it! I think comfort trumps all in fashion and I just tend to be more comfortable with a better appearance. But that doesn’t mean everyone has to conform to my beliefs. I was just giving some advice and trying to help my boys out.
What I’m calling for is mutual respect. I prefer tea and you prefer coffee. Don’t put down someone’s hobbies or interests, or draw negative conclusions from it. Have an open mind and see both sides of the coin.
Learn to understand others’ interests and find out what hooked them in the first place. Unearth the complexities and passion behind their craft. It’s actually very simple? Well some people like it simple and minimalistic! You’ll be surprised at how close-minded you were, not to mention childish too! (Remember how at 10 years old, kissing the opposite gender was disgusting? Well, look who’s the horny one now! Haha!)
Like your mind, the world will open up if you choose to let it open. The world is a more beautiful place once you learn to accept.
P.S. I have a secret admiration for cosplayers, enjoy cricket once in a while (especially when I’m watching with my Indian friends) and strongly believe that every profession (yes, even the bloody summon aunties) deserve some respect.
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